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PH – 15 | Tuan Nguyen | Stepping Up As A Business Dad

October 29, 2016

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Recently I had the chance to chat with entrepreneur,

DudeBuddha.com founder and all-around awesome dad, Tuan Nguyen. Tuan entered

the world of entrepreneurship through volunteerism and committing himself to his

community.

As a result, he was recognized and mentored by

community leaders, guiding him to a role as an entrepreneur. He’s founded several

businesses over the years, making considerable profits and eventually donating much of

it to charity.

Like many young people, Tuan decided he’d like to

start a family, getting married and eventually having a young son, Quinn.

Unfortunately, his marriage didn’t work out, and finding himself a single father in his

early forties, realized that he had to blaze a new trail, a more thoughtful and purposeful

one than before.

 

What follows are 6 key insights Tuan

shared with the Path Hunters audience.

1. Often insights can be gained in our darkest moments.

When Tuan’s marriage and business collapsed, he fell

into a brief depression. It was during this time that he began to refocus his priorities.

Stemming from discussions with other fathers, Tuan realized that there was very little

support available for entrepreneurial dads (or ‘biz dads’ as he likes to call them). That

insight led to DudeBuddha.com, a place to share growth hacks and business insights for

men who want to be successful in business without sacrificing their relationships with

their families. What began as a small Google hangout group has grown to a community

of biz dads who are sharing and applying the lessons and insights they’ve gained to, as

Tuan says on his website: “make a difference while also making a fortune.” Most

businesses are built on finding a pain and solving it. In this case, Tuan’s own difficulties

highlighted an area where he could serve the community in ways that benefited

everyone.

 

2. Be open to change.

The birth of Tuan’s son was an amazing, and also

eye-opening experience for him. He quickly realized that what he once thought was

important was no longer a priority. He began to see the opportunities presented by

these new priorities, as well as understanding how the pace he was once accustomed to

had to change. When once he could hustle hard and tackle projects at full speed, as a

father he needed to be more circumspect and purposeful. The work didn’t change, but

the pace did.

3. Your business must serve you, not the

other way around.

Fatherhood provided Tuan with a powerful lesson in

ensuring that his business served him. In his earlier ventures, he was often beholden to

the business, working crazy long hours and applying all of his energy in that direction.

With the arrival of his son, however, he realized that this had to change. Now, Tuan has

more clarity about what he wants from his business, and has shifted it to be a

contributor to his life, not a controlling force in it.

4. Being present is a gift to yourself, your

business, and your family.

Tuan’s young son, like so many small children, has

taught him the power of presence, or what he calls “active meditation.” Often Quinn sits in the back of the car and points out everything he sees, applying a child’s magical

and boundless imagination to the world around him. Thus a leaf on a tree can become

a dinosaur. Applying this imagination means first being present to actually see the

world around us in all

its detail. Tuan has taken to taking a few minutes out

of each day to walk outside, just noticing everything around him. No feeling, no

judgement, just noticing the details, something we often overlook in our busy lives.

This exercise fires up your mind to be fully present, unlocking creativity and allowing

you to focus more on the people around you, and your work.

5. Entrepreneurship is a great primer for

fatherhood.

Tuan’s approach to both business and fatherhood was

surprisingly similar. In his first businesses, he had the sudden realization of “oh my god,

can I even do this?” This apprehension is of course entirely normal for an entrepreneur,

but also common for a new parent. The full weight of the commitment hits you and

you realize giving up is no longer an option. Tuan realized that being willing to never

give up on yourself and rising above inevitable challenges was a skill he needed to be a

great father to his son. In a very real sense, his business helps him be a better father, and

his son helps him be a better entrepreneur.

6. Create space to build

bridges.

When Tuan began rebuilding his business, he realized

that his old methods wouldn’t be effective now that he was a father. Many fathers may

be in a similar situation, wanting to start their own businesses, but unsure how to take

such a leap without risking their family’s happiness or wellbeing. One of the

participants in Tuan’s DudeBuddha group offered a solution: “create space to build a

bridge.” When making a transition from working 9-5 to entrepreneurship, it’s

important that it be done purposefully and slowly. Understand that there is a process to

becoming an entrepreneur, and that as a father, there are more factors to consider. The

first step in building the bridge is to communicate with your family. Discuss what you

want to achieve together determine how best to make that happen. It may require

sacrifices, and it will certainly require investment, particularly in your mind and

body.

As you can see, Tuan is a fantastic dad and a fantastic

entrepreneur, serving the community while building a successful business of his own. A

pathhunter is someone who creates their own road, not just for their own benefit, but

for the benefit of all who come after them. If you’re a father making his way in the

entrepreneurial world, I strongly recommend checking out www.DudeBuddha.com. There you’ll find support and insights

to help you be a better businessperson, and a better father as well. The insights I’ve

shared with you here are just a small fraction of my amazing conversation with Tuan.

Be sure to head over to www.pathhunters.com to listen to the entire

interview.

What You Will Discover

In This Episode.

  • How to balance a life between aparent and running a business.
  • What skillsyou can learn from your child that would work in your business.
  • How Tuan came out of a tough timein his life
  • And so much more!

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Links

http://dudebuddha.com/

http://tuannguyen.space/

Tuan’s motivation video that was mentioned in the

interview:

 

 

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